By the time you are __
In the past few weeks, I have encountered so many articles telling me that by age 30 (in some cases 28, umm random) I should own X but not Y, know how to make Z, and a whole host of other things. While these are fun pieces to read, I completely disagree with all of them. Sure, there are some points that are valid, but if I still don't know what to do if I blow a fuse, that doesn't make me any less of an adult.
We all have our strengths and weaknesses and life paths are less linear than ever. If I were at my stage of life twenty years ago, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have changed careers, twice, and would likely be married with a child by now.
This last year was one in which I learned so much about myself and have really started to accept and treat myself with a renewed sense of kindness and caring. I have confronted internal and external challenges, health issues, had to reassess who and what deserved a place in my life, and so much more. To me, these are far more meaningful than whether or not my shoe collection includes a pair of nude heels. (It doesn't; guess I failed. 😜).
Below are my own lists. The first are the things that I, at age 31, do have and the second is a list of things I hope I'll have by 32. I'm proud of both lists and whether or not I achieve #2 before December 3, I'm still successful.
By Age 31 I Have
- The best family in the world
- Friends I can call anytime of day
- Confidence in myself and my abilities (at least most days)
- A healthy dose of fearlessness
- A deep sense of caring for my fellow humans
- A good sense of humor and a thriving inner child
- Drive and will power
- Personal style and know how to dress for any occasion and for my body
- Calm under pressure and can act quickly and smartly in an emergency
- The practical things: Laundry, clean my home, shop for food/necessities, follow a recipe and ability to cook/feed myself, pack for trips, travel, pay bills, etc.
- The ability to cheer myself up and know what makes me feel happy, smart, and beautiful
By Age 32 I Hope To
- Be more patient
- Master managing my finances (*I'm not in debt or anything like that, it's just a new responsibility and it intimidates me)
- Be more spontaneous
- Keep a plant alive
- Be better at regularly deep cleaning my apartment
- Learn to iron... maybe
Have you seen articles like this? What's on your lists?